Thursday, August 28, 2014

Why Selfie?

I've been meaning to write this blog post since April when I read this article in the Metro about the possibility of selfies being outlawed. While this idea seems absolutely ridiculous to me, it did get me thinking about selfies, and I thought about how lucky I am that I was 21 and already in my third year at University when Facebook became a 'thing' among my friends. I mean, school is generally horrendous for taking hits to your self confidence, I can't imagine what it must be like to be a teenager now with Facebook, Whatsapp, Snapchat etc. A veritable minefield of backhanded compliments and sarcastic 'lol's, I imagine.

Bringing me to the selfie...and I am specifically referring to those pictures you take of yourself generally when no one else is around, when you're not doing anything in particular that needs to be documented in a photo and you're just taking it to look good in a photo. I will happily admit, I am a selfie taker. I've been taking selfies since before phone cameras could flip to face-view. And I do mean those ones that you take purely to make yourself look good.


Douche shot which is embarrassingly actually on Facebook. I remember this and I was just liking how my hair was looking that day. I do still take these selfies now in my late twenties, but generally only when I've done my make-up/hair a little differently and, I'll admit it, I think I look good, and I don't often take the effort to make myself look good as I am a lazy fucker and I want to capture it while it lasts.


These pictures don't see the light of Facebook and personally, I think they're harmless. They're generally just for me, or, at a stretch I might send them to Ben or to a close friend in a Ron Burgundy "Come see how good I look!" kind of way.

So why then, is the Metro newspaper writing an article about their possible outlawing? Well, there's a few reasons, the one that struck me the most is the idea that selfies could be damaging to our self confidence. While I will happily snap my freshly made up face now and again these days, I know I can't be the only one who has, at one time or another, felt frustrated, upset and ultimately, unattractive because a picture I'd taken of myself didn't turn out the way I'd hoped, and, despite several retries, I was still unhappy with the result. If a picture is worth a thousand words, I only saw one - 'ugly'.

Needless to say, such selfies barely live on the phone for long and will never see the light of Facebook.
However, selfies are usually taken because the selfie-taker is feeling particularly attractive, and, in this digital age, several retakes are possible before the perfect selfie is created, so the pictures that do see the light of Facebook are generally of a very high standard. My question is, why do we feel the need to upload these pictures to the internet?

It does seem the main purpose of a selfie, if they are uploaded to Facebook/Twitter/Instagram, is to show off as Mr. Geary states in the Metro article, but, have you considered how you might feel if you got a negative comment on your picture? Think about it, your third take was perfect, you angled your head just right, you've got great light and your hair has no flyaways, you nailed it - you instagram/facebook/tweet it, and then some twat comments 'you look like a constipated dog' or a far less far-fetched but possibly more hurtful 'ooh, not your best' from a good friend. How this kind of comment affects you will probably give you an idea as to whether next time you should rethink before self-snapping and uploading. If your self-worth is coming from what others think of you, it's time you put down the camera phone and went and spent some time with good people who will help you realise your self-worth.

After my birthday last year, I posted this picture on Facebook:


I woke up with a hangover from an awesome birthday night out and a glimpse of myself in the bathroom mirror had made me realise how hilarious I looked with glitter still on my face and my hair an absolute mess from dancing the night away - I snapped the pic on my phone and put it on Facebook entitled 'the morning after the night before' and thanked everyone for coming to my birthday.

I honestly did not expect it to be such a big deal. Most of my friends gave me a 'lol' or a funny comment, others genuinely told me without a hint of humour that I looked like shit. 'Friends' actually messaged me asking me why I would put it on Facebook. My response was, what the hell is the big deal?? This is my face. It is not the best my face has ever looked, surprisingly, but my Facebook profile is not a modelling portfolio, it's a collection of shit I get up to and things I find funny. Which is why I also have no problem with pictures like this being on there:
Kelis June 2014

There's a quote I love in the film "About Time"; "It's not good for a girl to be too attractive, it stops her having a sense of humour." It might be that while selfies are for some, damaging to self-confidence, it's possible, for others, they are creating over-inflated egos who will ask you to take 'just one more' because they didn't look exactly right in the five other pictures you'd already taken.
Which one are you? Either way I think we should all consider the purpose behind our selfies because the only one who needs to know you look good is you. 

Monday, August 25, 2014

Kelis - Somerset House

Myself and some of my friends are of a certain age that when 'Milkshake' came out, we were all about 17/18, driving around playing that and some of the other amazing hits from Kelis' album, so when we spied that she was going to play Somerset House, we nabbed some tickets fairly swiftly.

Kelis June 2014

Somerset House is really, an amazing venue. I've been there for their open air cinema lately and it was awesome...though I can only take so much sitting on a cobbled floor. Anyway, we got there nice and early for Kelis and sat through the support acts.

Kelis June 2014

After a little while, we realised that they were posting pictures of people who tweeted in...and with lovely pictures such as this...

Kelis June 2014

...being two a penny, we thought we'd send in some more interesting faces...
Kelis June 2014

Kelis June 2014


Kelis June 2014

Kelis June 2014

Strangely, none of them got picked and put up on the screen...so we went back to waiting for Kelis...

Kelis June 2014

Who then turned up!

Kelis June 2014

Kelis June 2014

Now, it was pretty awesome, but we all agreed we were a little disappointed with her performance...she seemed to avoid doing her previous stuff which was what we'd really come for, and we all thought it was a bit odd when she sang from a book...

Kelis June 2014

But we had an amazing time anyway! And, even though the Milkshake version she played was a little odd, we danced like crazy!

Kelis June 2014


Saturday, August 23, 2014

Becky's Wedding

Shakettes reunite! We met this lot in this post, and we all came together again to celebrate Becky's wedding!















The bride looked beautiful...though I didn't actually manage to get a picture of her...I've stolen one from Facebook though.


Yay! What is there to say about a wedding...the ceremony was short and sweet, the best kind, the food was delicious, the many bottles of prosecco that me and the girls put away were awesome and Becky had a sweet cart after dinner!!!! I filled a little goodie bag with white chocolate mice, which tasted very nice the next day! It was so much fun to see the girls again and we ARE going to see each other more often. This will happen, it's just too much fun!

Wednesday, August 20, 2014

London Film and Comic Convention

This all seems like a lifetime ago now...I have been so uber busy that I never post anymore and THAT HAS TO CHANGE. I love my little online scrap book - it's so fun to look back at what I've been up to lately...so here I go trying to be better!

Ben's sister came to London and we went to this Comic Covention in London...nerdy, indeed. But necessary, hell yes!

Comic Convention July 2014


Comic Convention July 2014

There were, as expected, many comic books available for purchase, but there were also many celebrities!!

Comic Convention July 2014

This is the best picture of Summer Glau that I was able to get before the security guard behind her gave me a stern wag of the finger. I know her (and love her) from Serenity, such a good film!

Comic Convention July 2014

Tell me you've seen Airplane! Ohmygoodness it is one of my favourite films and I still can't help snickering everytime I go to an airport and I hear 'there is no stopping in the white zone.' If you don't get that, watch it, and you will. Anyway, Mr Robert Hays himself was there!
Comic Convention July 2014

Yup - there he is! There was also the guy who played R2-D2, a whole bunch of people from Game of Thrones that I didn't recognize because I've never seen it (I know, shocker) with the exception of Lena Headey who I knew from Dredd and 300. Also saw the girl from Step Up 3D, I may have been the only one excited by that...and Milo from Heroes. Very exciting! I love a good celeb spot and it never happens to me!

Comic Convention July 2014

Little Sherlock set-up...

Comic Convention July 2014

Now, I didn't dress up, some did though and provided the rest of us with MUCH entertainment! These guys are 'Judges' from Dredd, another amazing film.

Comic Convention July 2014

I managed to snap a quick shot of Spiderman and Darth Vader having a lightsaber fight...I don't remember that in Star Wars...

Comic Convention July 2014

And some Transformers vehicles! Ben and I left with these art prints we enjoyed...we haven't got round to framing them yet so they're joining a vast collection of things to be hanged when we eventually ask the landlord if we can put nails in the walls...ah the joys of renting.



Additional note: I just saw on their website that this is back October! Exciting!

Friday, August 1, 2014

Chap Olympiad

I'd never heard of this event, but when an email came through of things going on in London it sounded too amazing to miss out on! Dressing as 40s ladies and gentlemen and participating in hilarious sports such as umbrella jousting and bakewell tossing... we donned our gladrags and hit the scene with our packed picnic...























All pictures by Mr Chris Wilson...I took some myself but they pale in comparison so I won't even include them here! It's a picture heavy post as you really have to go to experience the event. If you want to compete in the sporting events you need to get there early (12.00pm on the dot) as the register was already full when we rolled up at 1.00pm.
Definitely take a picnic and get involved by dressing up...it's a very novel feeling to be travelling through London dressed this way and then arriving here where everyone is dressed the same!